A Father’s Day Love Story
guest blog from Abigayle Conner, author of the blog Eli & Ellie
I will begin with the one who started it all, my father-in-law, Mike. In respect to my past, I’ll just say that there was a little piece of my heart missing for a long time, and my father-in-law has been kind and gracious enough to lovingly fill it. He kisses my forehead and tells me that he loves me every time I say goodbye to him. He’s a hero, because in so many ways, Mike has created a life full of love for me.
When I was getting to know my husband’s family, I saw a love between his mom and dad that was so extraordinary. I knew that if my husband, Matt, had been raised in that love, he would be an amazing husband and father. I couldn’t have been more right. Matt is clearly following in his father’s footsteps in being a patient, generous, and supportive husband and father.
There are a lot of decisions we have had to make as parents. While most of the time we are on the same page, Matt and I have the occasional disagreement about something small, like who gets to wake up with the kids early on the weekends, or what kind of consequence our two-year-old should get if she’s been behaving badly. There is one thing that Matt and I have always agreed on, and that was our decision to breastfeed both of our children.
Matt held me tightly the night that our hospital nurse told me that I couldn’t breastfeed our first daughter, and he rubbed my feet as I successfully nursed her for the next 12 months. Matt has always cheered me on in motherhood, especially in our choice to breastfeed. He understands the toll that it takes on me, and tries his best to lift me up in any way that he can. He tells me that my postpartum body is beautiful, including my breasts, which are two different sizes from losing my supply. I don’t know what I would do if my husband didn’t support me in the decisions I make, especially in breastfeeding.
My father-in-law supports me in parenting, and in breastfeeding as well. He always tells me that it is ridiculous for me to feel as if I cannot comfortably nurse my baby at their house, and in public. He defensively tells me that I am being a good mother and doing what is best for my kids. When I am nursing, he asks me if I need anything, a glass of water, or some television to watch. Again, I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have the support of my family, including my father-in-law.
I am proud to say the men in my life are mine. Remember to pamper the men in your life this Father’s Day!
Author of the blog Eli & Ellie