3 Ways to Make This the Best Mother’s Day Yet
Accept what other people have to offer. Drink their milkshakes. Take their love. – Wally Lamb
Growing up, my mom was a single mother. When the holidays came around, she didn’t say ‘love is enough’ or that all she wanted was for us to get along. She didn’t shy away from sharing real, tangible things that we could give her, things that cost us time and money to get for her. A simple necklace, a nice sweater, a box of her favorite chocolates. She wasn’t shy about telling us: I’d love to receive this from you, thank-you-very-much. We’d save our money, my sister and I, combine our assets and then we’d sneak away to get her those special items she’d point out. We’d take such pride in wrapping those boxes and signing those cards, we’d worked for them. We knew she’d really, truly enjoy what was inside them, because she knew we’d worked for them, too. She knew we wanted to have a way to show her, to really tell her …
We love you, Mom.
My mom knew something that’s unpopular to say: it’s not the thought that counts. Thoughts don’t wipe tears or bottoms, moms do. Thoughts don’t tuck children into bed, pack lunches, or plan birthday parties, moms do. And, making sure the people we love KNOW we care means showing them. So, don’t be afraid this Mother’s Day to ask for what you want. You’ll be giving those around you the opportunity to show you in tangible ways what you mean to them. Here are 3 ways to get what you really want this year on Mother’s Day.
Ask for it.
If your partner and your kids ask you what you want this year for Mother’s Day, tell them. Even if they don’t ask you what you want, tell them. Would you love a nice brunch sans kids? Tell your partner you want him to handle the babysitter and the reservations. Is there a certain subscription to a favorite treat you could easily have your little ones buy for you, take them to the food counter and let them count their pennies to buy it.
Tom and Donna from the classic TV comedy, Parks and Recreation, may have been on to something. Once a year, they’d have a special day where they’d treat themselves! If there’s something you want that would make you feel appreciated, cared for, and refreshed for the tough job that is motherhood- go ahead and indulge in a moderate splurge. Though it feels good when others recognize the hard work you do, there’s no reason you can’t be the first to recognize (and reward yourself) for a job well done.
If there’s one thing I learned from my mom, it’s that she didn’t just ask for what she wanted, she also gave gifts she knew would make others feel special and loved. Every year on Mother’s Day, my mom would make sure to send flowers and pick out a gift for her own mom. She’d spend as long as she needed to pouring through the sentimental messages on each card just to be sure she found the perfect message. I never forgot that, and now, I’m sure to do the same. Having your own kids (and partner) see you honor your mom will help them to see that it’s MORE than the thought that counts and they, too, can spend the time, money, and effort necessary to show those they love (like you, Mom) that they care.